okey, I wanted to switch sddm to wayland anyway so I did that and now it works again.
(did it by following the instructions found here: Make SDDM itself run on Wayland - Support / KDE Plasma - Manjaro Linux Forum which I guess have been taken from SDDM - ArchWiki)
create file /etc/sddm.conf.d/10-wayland.conf
with content:
[General]
DisplayServer=wayland
GreeterEnvironment=QT_WAYLAND_SHELL_INTEGRATION=layer-shell
[Wayland]
CompositorCommand=